Emotional Pain & the Fear of Feeling

When we push feelings away, they usually grow over time. Instead, try to make space for what you are feeling and get curious:

- What are the first signs you're feeling emotional discomfort?
- What thoughts or beliefs come up?
- Where do you feel it in your body?
- What are you afraid of, and how do you usually react?
- Are your reactions helping—or just protecting you short-term?

Remember: you are not your feelings, and emotions aren’t who you are.
They’re messengers—often pointing to what you need.

For example, when we feel angry that might be a sign that a boundary was crossed or someone's behavior goes against our values.